It appears that office romances begun in the spring are now wilting in the fall, hence a cautionary tale that was originally published on 11/18/2012
The idea that love is all powerful and that affairs can be justified as “matters of the heart” defies common sense. Would you be willing to sacrifice your entire future for a person you do not plan to marry? And if you did love that person with the intensity that you claim, wouldn’t you seek to preserve your future by requesting their resignation to seek employment elsewhere? To throw away a lifetime of respect and honor (as in General Petraeus affair) or a career-topping achievement for the temporary feeling of “being in love” seems irrational. Especially if the other person recognizes the mutual danger to your future life together.
Another cautionary tale …
"Lockheed Martin Ousts Future CEO Over Relationship With Subordinate"
"Lockheed Martin Corp. has ousted its president and future CEO over a relationship with a subordinate. The defense company said Friday that its board of directors asked for and received the resignation of Christopher Kubasik from his role as vice chairman, president and chief operating officer. Kubasik, 51, was scheduled to become CEO in January. Lockheed Martin says an ethics investigation confirmed that he had a close personal relationship with a subordinate employee. That violates the company’s code of ethics and business conduct." Source: Lockheed Martin Ousts Future CEO Over Relationship With Subordinate « CBS DC
Bottom line …
It will continue to happen in perpetuity … but will it happen to you and will you bet your entire future on it being kept a secret?
Full Disclosure: Been there, done that. I finally got her a job at a neighboring company through a friend. Although it added another layer of inconvenience to my life, it was well worth the time, effort and trouble. We thought we were being discrete, although I later found out that the President of the company saw us shopping in a supermarket at 2 a.m. picking up certain feminine items along with the groceries. And, of course, he told a few people and the secret was out. Was it worth the risk? Yes – then, and as I reflect upon it now, the answer remains yes. Perhaps I did not have enough at risk to make it a truly life-changing decision.